Consent works best when both people are on the same page. And have actually read it.

What Is Consent, Really?

Consent means freely and enthusiastically agreeing to a sexual activity, every single time. It’s not implied by a relationship, a previous yes, or what someone’s wearing. Consent must beFRIES: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific.

Consent Is Always Revocable

Saying yes once doesn’t mean yes forever. Anyone can change their mind at any point, before, during, or after an activity. A partner who respects you will stop. Full stop. No negotiation, no guilt trip.

Reading the Room (and Asking)

Non-verbal cues matter, but they’re not a substitute for asking. “Is this okay?” or “Do you want to continue?” takes 3 seconds and removes all ambiguity. If you’re unsure, ask. If you’re still unsure, stop.

Good communication doesn’t kill the mood. Bad communication does.

Communicating Before, During, After

Before:Talk about what you’re both comfortable with. It doesn’t have to be a legal contract, even a casual “what are you into?” goes a long way.

During:Check in. Use words. “Like this?” “Too much?” These aren’t mood-killers, they’re connection-builders.

After:A little check-in after intimacy strengthens trust. How are you feeling? Was that okay?

When the Answer Is No (or Not Clear)

Silence is not consent. Hesitation is not consent. “Maybe later” is not consent. If someone seems uncomfortable, freezes, or doesn’t respond enthusiastically, that’s your cue to slow down and check in, not to continue.

️ The Conversation Nobody Taught You

Most of us never had a class on how to talk about sex, not what we like, what we don’t, what our boundaries are. That silence creates confusion, bad experiences, and sometimes real harm. Start small: a text, a “by the way,” a quiet moment. You don’t have to deliver a TED talk. You just have to say something.